When it comes to the current state of relationship statuses, we live in a Facebook-fueled era of idolatry. What used to be just single or married has now become: single, in a relationship, engaged, married and everyone’s favorite: it’s complicated. Our relationship statuses, or lack thereof, follow us around like a shadow, eclipsing how we perceive ourselves and how others categorize us. Not only is this prevalent in the world, but it is even present in the Church.
Recently, I’ve had to navigate the many titles that come with being in a new romantic relationship. Even though my boyfriend and I are both believers serving in ministry, many times, our relationship status seems to overshadow our purpose. At first, we were just dating. This season was marked with lots of uncertainty, anticipation and prayer (rightfully so). Then, I was appointed the title of girlfriend.
This new status gave me a sense of pride and accomplishment. I was no longer the unfortunate single woman who everyone tried to “save” by setting me up with every Tom, Dick and Harry at church or sending me Scriptures on how to brave this romantic dry season. As I eagerly embraced my new title of girlfriend, I found myself losing sight of my heavenly identity—the bride of Christ and a prophet to the nations (Jeremiah 1:5). Instead of keeping the ultimate purpose of a relationship at the forefront—to glorify Christ—I easily got caught up in regularly scheduled date nights and having a plus one to weddings.
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