Why are you kind? Why do you serve and demonstrate love to other people? Of course, the ‘right’ answer – certainly if you’re a Christian – is that as follower of Christ you simply want to replicate his example. And even if you’re not, there are definitely times when you decide to act kindly just because you want to be kind – because you’re a nice person.
If we’re really honest though, that’s not always the case. Sometimes, our motives for being kind to other people are a little more mixed than that. It seems to me that there are a number of other possible reasons behind our desire to serve others. And while none of these reasons prevent good works from being accomplished, or people from benefitting from kind acts, they’re not actually the type of kindness that Jesus calls us to in the gospels.
In Mark 9 v 35, Jesus invites us to become ‘the very last… and the servant to all’. The kindness that he models (through washing the feet of his disciples and more) is one of submission and service to everyone around us – from our closest friends to the people we find most difficult. Jesus asks that we love one another for no other reason except that he is calling us to do it. So here are four other reasons why we might choose to be kind which – while they still might result in good being done – aren’t directly following that example.
Kindness… because of how it makes me feel
Sometimes we decide to do a good thing for someone else because of how it makes us feel inside. We enjoy the warm fuzzy feelings of helping another person who is less fortunate than ourselves, whether that’s by donating something we no longer need, giving a bit of money away, or helping an old lady to cross the road. There’s nothing wrong with those things per se, or even the feelings of warmth and pleasure we get from serving another person. Sometimes though what we’re really doing here is assuaging our own guilt about the privileges we enjoy. If you’re wealthy, giving a bit of money away doesn’t really involve any sacrifice; if you’ve finished with your old baby clothes, then handing them to a new mum comes at no cost to you. Again, none of these things are bad things to do – but if we’re using them as a way of feeling better about ourselves, then that’s not pure, Christ-like kindness.
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